What is MakeLoveNotPorn all about?

What is MakeLoveNotPorn?

MakeLoveNotPorn is Pro-sex. Pro-porn. Pro-knowing the difference. We’re the world's first user-generated, human-curated social sex video-sharing platform, celebrating #realworldsex as a counterpoint to porn, with the aim of socializing sex - making it easier for everyone to talk about, in order to promote good sexual values and good sexual behavior. We’re what Facebook would be if Facebook allowed everyone to socially sexually self-identify and self-express (which sadly, they don’t).

Social sex reassures, because we celebrate #realworld bodies, #realworld everything - including accidents, awkwardness, messiness. Social sex is funny - because if we can’t laugh at ourselves in bed, when can we?! Social sex is moving, because we celebrate #realworld emotions - love, intimacy, feelings. And our MakeLoveNotPornstars tell us that socially sharing their #realworldsex is as transformative for them and their relationships, as socially sharing everything else has been for the world at large.

Who is MLNP for?

MakeLoveNotPorn is for people who see more open, healthy attitudes and behavior around #realworldsex. We’re for couples who want to communicate better through sex - watch our videos together to spark amazing conversations (and great sex). We’re for singles who want to have a lot more fun masturbating (check out our solo MakeLoveNotPornstar videos to see how other people do it). We’re for millennials who’ve grown up with porn and want to know how to MakeLoveNotPorn. We’re for older people who want to see older #realworldsex celebrated. We’re for people who want ideas for how to expand their sexual repertoire.

You can watch our #realworldsex videos, and you can share your own #realworldsex videos. But it’s fine to just watch - sharing is not obligatory! We have members and contributors - MakeLoveNotPornstars - of every age, gender, race, sexuality from countries all around the world. As long as you’re 18 years old and over, anyone can be a member, and anyone can submit videos.

Why should I join?

Don’t hear it from us, hear it from the people who write to us every day with their individual stories of why they welcome what we’re doing and how it’s helped them in their lives: Click here

You can watch our #realworldsex videos, and you can share your own #realworldsex videos. But it’s fine to just watch - sharing is not obligatory! We have members and contributors - MakeLoveNotPornstars - of every age, gender, race, sexuality from countries all around the world. As long as you’re 18 years old and over, anyone can be a member, and anyone can submit videos.

What is MLNP for?

Our videos aren’t just there to turn you on (although you’ll find they do a very good job of that!). Based on the feedback our wonderful members send us every day : MLNP inspires you (male member on our #metime videos: “I realized I could be having a whole lot more fun masturbating!”), gives you new ideas for your own sex life, expands your sexual repertoire, improves your sexual technique (MakeLickjobLoveNotPorn, anyone?), sparks revelatory conversations between partners, saves marriages by re-igniting sexual desire, and has even helped you conceive !

What might that include?

So glad you asked! Public sex, blow jobs, shower sex, oral sex, and mature sex. Spanking, rough sex, grinding, giggling, pegging, flirting, dirty talk, and period sex. Outdoor sex, sex in the kitchen, sex while camping, forest sex, and sauna sex. Couples, groups, strangers, and solos. Playing with We-Vibe, Jimmyjane, Lelo, PalmPower, Fleshlights, Sybians, and Magic Wands.

Our Make Love Not Porn stars identify as gay, lesbian, straight, bisexual, transgender, asexual, and nonbinary. We’re creating a new language for #RealWorldSex. Check out our Licktionary for more fun.

What’s the difference between porn and MLNP?

Porn is performative, manufactured entertainment. If porn is the Hollywood blockbuster movie, MLNP is the documentary. Social sex on MLNP is not amateur porn, it’s simply about doing what we all do on social platforms - capturing what goes on in the real world, spontaneously, as it happens, in all its funny, messy, glorious, wonderful, awkward, comical, beautiful humanness, and sharing it so we can all be entertained, inspired, moved, surprised, delighted, and learn from it.

Who started it?

MLNP was founded by former advertising executive Cindy Gallop, who dates younger men and realized through personal experience that when we don’t talk openly and honestly about sex in the real world, porn becomes sex education by default. In 2009, Cindy launched the original iteration of MLNP - ‘Porn World vs Real World’ with a TED talk that went viral. The extraordinary global response made her realize she’d uncovered a huge global social issue, and she turned MLNP into a business designed to do good and make money simultaneously - mlnp.tv.

FUN FACT: To date Cindy’s the only person to say the words “come on my face” six times on the TED stage.

How does MLNP work?

MLNP operates a revenue sharing business model . Members pay to rent and stream our social sex videos, and we split those payments 50/50 with our MakeLoveNotPornstars. You can rent each video for three weeks’ unlimited viewing, on a per video basis at $5 per video; you can take out a $10 MakeMonthlyLoveNotPorn subscription for five videos per month; or you can start a subscription. You can also gift a subscription to someone you love.

I'm interested, what's next?

Where do I find the videos I’ve rented?

You can find any video that you’ve rented or bookmarked in your Happy Place . There are all of the #realworldsex videos that you currently have rented, have rented previously or want to rent in the future!

How do I watch videos?

You can watch any video a la carte, at $5 per video for 3 weeks’ unlimited viewing. Or you can subscribe: $10/month MakeMonthlyLove for 5 videos per month, $30/month MakeDailyLove unlocks a video per day for 30 videos per month, and $50/month MakeBingeLove lets you watch 50 videos per month whenever you want.

Can I download #realworldsex videos?

We’re afraid not. We deliberately operate a ‘rent and stream’ model versus ‘download and own’, because our commitment to our MakeLoveNotPornstars is that if they change their minds for any reason, their videos are removed immediately and are not accessible anywhere else.

Can I preview videos?

Every #realworldsex video on our site has a free-to-access 'sneak peek’. However, they don’t work quite like conventional trailers. We give our MakeLoveNotPornstars complete freedom to do whatever they want in their intro videos, as long as they contextualize their #realworldsex. They can be as creative or straightforward as they want to be. Intro videos are your opportunity to get to know our MakeLoveNotPornstars - and then see how they have #realworldsex!

How do I search on MLNP?

Currently you can search using our tags : Our tags aren’t the ones you may be used to because we’re creating a new language for #realworldsex . We’ll be adding a glossary very shortly! You can also search via edition themes and by MakeLoveNotPornstar .We are working to improve our searchability and will make all members aware when this is completed.

Can I bookmark videos to watch for later?

We have not yet built this feature but will be delivering it further down the line.

How can I manage my experience with MakeLoveNotPorn?

Can I change my username?

Yes - just email support@mlnp.tv with your desired new handle and we’ll change it for you.

How do I reset my password?

Just click on this link here to change your password.

How do I delete my account?

Just click the red “Delete my Account” button on your Account page.

How do I pay?

We accept Visa, Mastercard, Discover and all gift cards with the Visa or Mastercard logo. We wish we could accept American Express and PayPal - unfortunately, they currently refuse to work with ‘adult content’ . We hope one day to get them to change their minds! To change/update your credit card info just click on 'Account' in the drop down menu in the top right-hand corner of the site and you'll see where to update your card.

How does MLNP show up on my credit card/bank statement?

Our charges show up as ‘MLNP’.

How do I express my appreciation to MLNPstars?

We’re working on making social shareable features a part of the MLNP.tv experience where you will be able to comment on videos and interact with other members of our community (including MLNPstars!). In the meantime, please email your feedback to curators@mlnp.tv, who will pass it onto our MLNPstars — they will be delighted to hear from you!

Who can I contact with any other issues?

Just email support@mlnp.tv and one of our team will get back to you as quickly as possible.

I want to be a MakeLoveNotPornstar: what should I know?

I’m intrigued by the idea of sharing my #realworldsex on MLNP but feeling a bit nervous?

Please don’t be! You can choose as little or as much exposure as you want . Your video is only viewable on our platform, by those of our members who choose to rent it; and the moment you decide you no longer want your videos up, for whatever reason, they’re gone (we’ll take them down and plan in the future to build a self-delete capability so you can take them down yourself).

What do you mean by #realworldsex?

Your video is perfect for MLNP if it shows the sex you have in your everyday life naturally and spontaneously, without performing for the camera. Here's what we curate for - but really, just how you’re already enjoying yourself/selves!

Do I/we have to show my face/our faces?

Not if you don’t want to! Obviously, we’d love to see your lovely faces (and many of our MakeLoveNotPornstars are happy showing theirs), but if you’d prefer to stay anonymous, then read our post How To Shoot A Bangin’ #realworldsex Video Without Ever Showing Your Face!

How long or short should my video be?

#realworldsex is as long or as short as you want it to be - so there are no rules! The only requirement is that your video should be at least 3 minutes long. Other than that, as long as you like (our longest video is two glorious hours!).

What video file size and formats do you accept?

We accept file formats .avi, .mov, and .mp4. (Let us know if your video is in another format.) You can upload your video via the share page .

What do you need from me/us to accept a submission?

A complete submission consists of three things:

  1. An intro video
  2. your main video, and
  3. the legally required ID documentation.

We do require that every video be submitted with an intro video, which operates as our ‘sneak peek’ for viewers - it’s a bit like a trailer, but we encourage you to be as creative as you like with it. Your intro video should provide some sort of context for your main video (eg, what sparked this particular fun time? Where were you, and what were you thinking about? Etc etc.) We recommend that the intro be at least between 30 seconds and 2 minutes but it can be as long as you like - and have some fun with it!

In addition to your intro video and main video, we also require ID documentation with every submission. We are legally required to collect two government issued for each person in the room when the video was filmed. Please email curators@makelovenotporn.tv for more info on acceptable forms of ID.

Who do I contact with any questions?

If you have any questions about or issues with uploading your #realworldsex submission please email curators@makelovenotporn.tv and one of us will get back to you as soon as possible. We’re happy to help!

How long does it take for a submission to be reviewed?

Once submitted, please allow 24-48 hours for our curators to get back to you. It can take up to a week for a video to go live on our site. If it’s been more than a week and you haven’t heard from one of our curators, please email us at curators@makelovenotporn.tv.

How often do you reject videos, and if so, why?

We don’t reject videos very often but when we do it’s usually because they don’t meet our curation requirements . The three main reasons we do occasionally, sadly, have to reject videos are:

  1. Too porn trope-y. By that we mean that the people in the video are actively performing for the camera, or copying porn tropes - eg, too many genital close-ups (you don’t have to prove to us you’re actually having sex, we know you are!), too little context (we love seeing the before, how you get turned on, and the aftermath - cuddling, conversation, showers) etc.
  2. Poor production quality. We’re not about production values per se - the spontaneity of your #realworldsex captured on phones or webcams is part of the charm - but if it’s so dark we can’t see a thing, we’ll give you some lighting tips for your next go-round.
  3. This one’s a real bummer - copyrighted music. We know that when you’re having #realworldsex it’s easy to forget about your favorite MusicToMakeLoveNotPornTo track on in the background, but alas, if it’s copyrighted we can’t publish, which is why we suggest using Creative Commons music .

Can I submit videos I’ve already published somewhere else?

We do ask that any videos you submit to MLNP are exclusive to us.

How does MLNP’s MakeLoveNotPornstar revenue-sharing model work?

We split the income from video rentals 50/50 with our MakeLoveNotPornstars. The breakdown is as follows:

  • $5 Individual video rental: $2.50
  • $10 - 5 videos/month subscription: $1.00 (per video chosen)
  • $30 - 30 videos/month subscription: $0.50 (per video chosen)
  • $50 - 50 videos/month subscription: $0.50 (per video chosen)

How do payouts work and how often do you make them?

Once your first video is live on our site our curators will be in touch with more information regarding the payout process. We’re a global platform and make payouts to our MakeLoveNotPornstars wherever you are in the world. We currently make payouts every 90 days (February, May, August, and November). MakeLoveNotPornstars that have earned a minimum of $20 from their videos will receive a payout.

When I submit a video, who owns it?

When your videos are submitted to MLNP, you grant MLNP a non-exclusive license to distribute your video - but you are always and remain the ultimate owner of your videos. You can learn more about our terms of service in our video submissions agreement .

What happens if I/we change our minds and no longer want my/our videos up?

You can change your mind and have your videos removed from MLNP at any time. Just send an email to curators@makelovenotporn.tv. It takes 48 hrs or less for a video to be removed. You can also just take a break and have your videos taken down temporarily and then put back up when you’re ready! You can also leave your current videos up and just take a break from posting new videos, so that you still earn passive income. It’s all super flexible and organized to keep you as comfortable as possible.

My partner and I broke up but we want to leave our videos up. Is that allowed?

Totally! We’re happy for MakeLoveNotPornstars to keep their videos on MLNP after a break up. As long as everyone in the videos consents to leaving them up then that’s fine with us. If at any point anyone in a video ever indicates that they’re not.

What’s it like being a MakeLoveNotPornstar?

Don’t hear it from us - hear it from our wonderful MakeLoveNotPornstars (in their own voices) !

How do I see how many rentals I have?

You can find out how many rentals you have by visiting your account page - just log in to MLNP, click on the top right hand corner of any page and select ‘account’ from the drop down menu. At the end of every payout period, our curators will send you an account statement that breaks down your number of rentals per video (eventually we plan to make this available on your profile).

Can I see how many people have viewed my video or visited my profile?

Not yet, but we’re working on it!

We’re a couple/group, should each person have their own profile?

Couples and groups can submit videos under the one collective profile.

Does my MakeLoveNotPornstar profile need to be public?

The default setting on your profile page is ‘private’ - as it is for all our members. We encourage you to make your profile page public so people can see all of your videos in one place.

I share and rent videos. Can I make the videos I’ve rented private?

If you would like to keep your rented videos separate from your shared videos, you can create an additional profile just for renting.

How do I edit a submission?

You can edit your submission by going to the share page , selecting your submission from the left hand side and then clicking the edit button in the upper right hand corner of the page.

What's the deal with MakeLoveNotPorn Social?

What is MakeLoveNotPorn Social?

MLNP Social was created as a response to the adult content ban on Tumblr . We wanted to provide Tumblr alums, (and anyone else!) a place to share your NSFW art, photos, and text where it’s not only okay, but encouraged! We actively want the kind of content that will get you kicked off of other social media platforms.

What can I post?

Anything celebrating sex and sexuality - and anything that isn’t! We do ask that you own the rights to any image that you’re posting, that everyone is 18 or over and that everything is legal. Our platform is human-curated - our curators review everything submitted to make sure it’s in line with our policies before publishing.

Who can see what I share?

MLNP is a closed community, meaning you need an account to access any content. However, it’s totally free to sign up, start posting on MLNP Social, and then share the link to your personal user url. When you create your page, please note that the default setting is private, so make sure your profile is set to public when you’re ready to show your work off!

What happens to my work when I delete my account?

If you delete your account, anything you post will no longer be accessible or viewable.

Can I like and follow other pages?

Not yet, but we’re working on introducing that feature ASAP! Right now, MLNP Social is very simple, but you’ll soon be able to like and follow other members of the community.