Hadassah&Ivan

Context down below. ⬇️

Hi beautiful people. Some of you might have wondered where we disappeared to since we haven’t shared anything these past two months. We're still here, we’ve just been moving through a huge life shift with a lot of grief (and ultimately - hope).

For context: I (Hadassah) have been living in Rwanda for seven years. Ivan and I have been together for five, raising our baby and my other kids in our polyamorous family setting. And for these past 5 years we’ve been trying to get Ivan to South Africa, my home country. But because of the political tension between our countries, even a simple visitor’s visa has been almost impossible for Rwandans to get since 2014. We tried everything: research, lawyers, saving, hoping, waiting. But without a South African embassy in Rwanda and with those diplomatic walls, even having a South African child doesn’t count yet.

Eventually, my longing for my country and family got too much and I finally admitted that I couldn’t stay grounded or happy in Rwanda anymore. So we made the painful decision that I would move with the kids first while Ivan works every angle from his side. So this is where we are right now - stretched across two countries, something we fiercely hoped would never have to happen. But we are so hopeful and are forming many new strategies. Being back here in my beloved (free and expansive) South Africa is also a dream come true for me. I can't wait to show it to Ivan one day.

Before I left, just 3 weeks ago, we filmed many raw, intimate, beautiful moments together. We haven't yet been able to post, of course - the move has kept us so super busy - both practically and this grief just taking up a lot of resources and space in our hearts. Things are finally calming down, though, and I can feel my energy and creativity streaming back.

Very soon, I’ll be able to share all of our sensual, intense, raw, Ivan-and-Hadassah-flavoured videos we created at the end. Stay tuned, Lovelies. ❤️😘 We’re still here, and we’re coming back.